In episode 29, I talk with AnnMaria De Mars about being the first American to win the Judo World Championship, raising four kids one of whom is Ronda Rousey the current UFC champion, getting four degrees including a PhD in applied statistics, her book Winning on the Ground, her blog, her grandmother’s advice, the passing of her husband, the absurdity of sport, coaching an elite level athlete, balancing academics and sport, Ronda’s 2007 World Silver and Olympic Bronze and her matches against Edith Bosch, refusing to lose, being a woman in a combat sport, teaching kids math through computer games at 7 Generation Games, math (and hard work) as an important foundation for long-term success in life, and more.
Edit: I wrote a blog post with some post-interview takeaways.
AnnMaria on the advice her grandmother gave her:
“Do the best you can with everything you were given. She really believed that quote in the Bible: ‘To whom much is given, much is expected.’”
AnnMaria on being asked if she is afraid of death:
“No, I can think of a lot worse things than death. One of the reasons people are afraid of dying is they have regrets. They haven’t done the things they want to do. Because my husband passed away when I was young, that changed the way I thought about things. He was a great guy, worked hard his whole life. There were a lot of things he wanted to do that he never got around to doing because he always thought there would be time later. So now when I want to do something, I do it. When I look back, I’ve had a lot of accomplishments and experiences in education, academics, I published scientific articles, I wrote a book with Jimmy Pedro Sr, I have wonderful children, so if I died right now I have no regrets. You want to live like you might die tomorrow, because you might die tomorrow.”
AnnMaria on the absurdity of dedicating years of your life to achieving a singular goal like winning a World Championship:
“You have to be smart enough to do it and dumb enough to believe it’s important.”
AnnMaria on what it takes to be successful in judo or in math or in anything:
“You get good at something by doing a lot of it.”
AnnMaria on trash talking:
“Like Dr. Seuss said, ‘Be who you are and say what you mean. Because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind!’”
AnnMaria on what will go on her tombstone:
“I’m smarter than I look.”